Psychotherapist, Coach, Counsellor & Author
Paul McNiff specialises in:
- Showing couples how to stop fighting, re-connect and completely transform their relationships—for good!
- Helping people to take back their power and create new habits that will completely eradicate past anxiety reactions
- Unveiling powerful strategies to help couples prevent the build-up of resentment, frustration and other factors that lead to relationship issues and potential breakups!
- Showing people how to stop anxiety in its tracks!
A Really Short Bio
Paul McNiff is the guy (a Degree qualified Psychotherapist) who authored the book: "Solving the Marriage Conundrum". He's also the creator of an innovative new approach to couple therapy that quickly and seamlessly eradicates years of resentment... and helps couples to completely transforms their relationships—fast!
A Medium Bio
Paul McNiff is a Psychotherapist who is ridiculously passionate about helping people to make their lives and their relationships great. Paul has been in Private Practice since 2005, and during that time he has helped to countless couples to transform their relationships for good.
Not content with just helping people to just go through the motions and "survive" in their relationships, Paul says that it doesn't take much for couples to thrive instead. And that's what he's been busily doing for the last few decades...
Paul has dug deep into the worlds of relationships and anxiety, which he sees as linked. And he has compiled, tweaked, tested and created a vastly different approach that helps couples to quickly surpass years of resentment that has been holding them back and take their relationships to the next level. Paul has shared part of this powerful approach in his book: Solving the Marriage Conundrum.
A Longer... Okay A Slightly Verbose Bio
Paul McNiff is a Psychotherapist who is ridiculously passionate about helping people to make their relationships and their lives great. With a background in management and coaching in the corporate arena, Paul realised that his coaching was leaning towards a more personal, transformational focus. And with that in mind, he decided to pursue his passion further by completing a degree in Counselling and Human Change (Psychotherapy).
Paul went into Private Practice in 2005 and over the last few decades he has helped countless people, couples, individuals, business groups and families to completely transform their lives and their situations.
When asked about why he chose to focus in the areas of relationships, families, parenting and anxiety, Paul says it's all about creating great relationships for the future. People who have great (truly balanced) relationship skills, pass these onto their children... and then these also get passed onto their children's children as well. He says it's all about paying-it-forward.
Not content with just helping people to "survive" their relationships, as so many other professionals seem to do, Paul says he wants couples to "thrive" in their relationships. And according to him, it doesn't take very much to help couples completely turn their situations around.
Paul has spent the last few decades digging deep into the worlds of relationships and anxiety, which he sees as linked. And in doing so he has devised a vastly different approach that helps couples to eradicate years of resentment that has been holding them back—often within moments. Paul says that once a couple really understand what's really going on that has been holding them back, it's very quick to put this in the past and move forwards, into a very different future together.
The Transformation is Massive!
Hey Paul, Just a quick note to say a huge THANK YOU!!!
Sarah and I are sitting on the back verandah, having a glass of wine and talking about how much our relationship and subsequent lives have improved since seeing you!
We’ll be in touch in a couple of months to have another appointment but we can honestly say we haven’t been this happy in years; the transformation is massive!
Huge respect and feel free to use us a reference!
Matthew & sarah
Paul with his client: Rob (Millsy) Mills
Paul's approach is very different to others
Paul understands that the problems that couples talk about... and the things they typically fight about, are really just surface issues or presenting problems. Many couples are not arguing about the true problem! But unfortunately, many people don't understand what the 'REAL' underlying issue is... But until they focus directly on this underlying issue, nothing will shift! Paul's approach deals directly with the underlying issues to create almost instant, yet lasting relationship change for couples.
Anxiety and Depression
Paul doesn't believe that people "have anxiety", but instead that everyone has "a relationship with anxiety". He sees anxiety is an important, almost crucial part of our life. Anxiety is not the problem. The problem is that when people try to fix or avoid anxiety , they generally start to feel even worse, instead of better. So Paul's approach is not about fixing anxiety... It's about changing your relationship with it instead! And the good news; this is easy to change... when you now how!
No More Conundrums
Many of the things couples do to try to keep their relationship safe, or to try to deal with existing problems, often make things even worse; creating the actual problem they're trying to fix. Once they discover what they're that is actually causing this, couples are able to take back their power and find balance... They're able to work through things in a very different way: a way that not only prevents future issues, but helps them truly get past years of built-up resentment and frustration... for good!
Anxiety is the Relationship Bully
Paul sees anxiety and relationship issues as intrinsically linked. His approach is not about keeping the peace and avoiding arguments, because this just makes things worse. Paul says that the real issue underneath nearly every emotional or psychological problem faced by anyone is anxiety. Anxiety is a Bully! And until you deal directly... and effectively with anxiety and how it is bullying you, nothing will change. But it's not about confronting the bully head on... Paul's approach makes this seamless and easy...
Paul with his client: Casey Donovan
Paul is available for press and media comment about relationships, anxiety and communication. He's also available for keynote speeches, presentations and training, as well as consulting around relationship challenges,
both personal and business...
Paul's book: Solving the Marriage Conundrum
longer book description
- Are you sick of struggling in your relationship and wondering if it's even possible to fix things?
- Do you want to communicate better with your partner... in a way that brings you closer together, rather than creating more arguments and distance?
- How would you like to find out the secret to re-connecting and working as a loving team again?
In "Solving the Marriage Conundrum", Paul McNiff shows you the REAL reasons why you're struggling... and also the REAL reasons why your attempts to stop struggling are unlikely to work. (And believe me; these will surprise you!)
But it doesn't stop there; in Solving the Marriage Conundrum you will also find out exactly what you CAN do, step-by-step, to quickly and easily change your own approach... and by doing that, you will be able to almost seamlessly re-connect with your partner in a way that you never thought was possible.
- Are you struggling in your relationship and wondering if there's any hope for your relationship's future?
- Does it feel like you're just going through the motions, but you've lost your connection with, and your passion for your partner?
- And do your attempts to try to fix things in your relationship not only 'not work', but have a tendency to make things even worse over time?
Well hold on tight... because all of that is about to change...
No matter what your relationship looks like right now, and no matter what you’ve already tried to do to fix things, whatever you do—author Paul McNiff is asking you to not give up quite yet! In his book, 'Solving the Marriage Conundrum', Paul shows you why this is REALLY happening and exactly what you CAN do to stop fighting and make your relationship great!
Paul calls this a conundrum, stating that the real reason why couples end up struggling: fighting; avoiding each other; feeling a huge amount of frustration and resentment towards each other; and even having affairs; or questioning their relationship's future... is not because they did anything wrong... It's because of how much they loved each other in the first place. In fact, Paul says that going through these frustrations is almost inevitable for most couples. And not just that but this phase is a necessary and important "right of passage", which,when used well, will allow couples to not only fall back in love, but to take their relationship to a completely different level.
In his book: "Solving the Marriage Conundrum", Paul will not only show you the REAL reasons why you're struggling... but he'll show you why your attempts to stop struggling haven't worked yet... and are probably never going to. (Believe me; these are going to surprise you!)
But it doesn't stop there; in Solving the Marriage Conundrum you will also discover exactly what you CAN do, step-by-step, to quickly and easily change your own approach... and by doing that, you will be able to almost seamlessly re-connect with your partner in a way that you never thought was possible.
Are you ready to find out how you truly can make your relationship amazing?
TV & Print Media
The Bigger Things... with Antonia Kidman
Early on in his career, Paul appeared as a featured expert on The Bigger Things with Antonia Kidman W Channel, FOXTEL Digital, in an episode about how people reveal hidden secrets and information to their partners, parents and friends.
Sunshine Coast Daily: Newspaper Article
Paul was a featured expert in an article in the Sunshine Coast Daily Newspaper about the link between Christmas and the New Year and relationship challenges and breakdowns..
The Coca-Cola Journey
Paul was approached to write an article as part of the Coco-Cola Journey about five ways to relax and de-stress in the workplace